Den and I had stole a little bit of time away from all the kids. It was time that was dedicated to just him and I; more of a rarity nowadays. We had found ourselves wandering back to our old stomping grounds, Barnes and Noble. It's a quiet, laid back zone, and it's free. As we were holding our yummy drinks from the attached Starbucks we began to head to the same old section, ya know the one on how to decorate, farm, or revamp a house one way or another. As I was standing there glazed over at the same books that have been there since the beginning of the century I saw a table that had been spread out with homeschool books. It drew us in immediately. The books on that table had nothing new to offer me, but it got my mind whirling. It made me contemplate my vision for my family. What was that vision? I remember taking a homeschool teaching course and in the beginning of the classes they made us take poster paper and draw a picture of our vision for our family, then we had to explain our concept to the class the next day. It was surprising how many of us had the same vision. It was very inspiring.
So after a very short stay at the bookstore Den and I decided to go for a drive, even though gas prices are making our SUV a very expensive necessity anymore. Regardless, we drove all over the back country side and talked about our goals concerning parenting and family life. It was reinvigorating, and more needed than I first realized. We have been needing to remind ourselves of our goals; it has been far too long. I think that having a baby has put us into "adjustment mode" and we have been just rolling with the punches, but there comes a time where you have to shake yourself and make sure your awake for this parenting thing. *slap slap*
I began to think about the youngest to the oldest. Boaz went without saying, I mean he is a newborn so we are all about changing diapers, giving lots of love, feeding him and making sure he gets enough sleep. It all sounds simple enough, but believe me it is extremely time consuming right now. Roman....well we need to step up with the potty training. He has been showing plenty of signs for awhile, but mommy has been lazy and not ready to get down to the dirty work. So things are about to change in the double diaper duty front. Plus I have found myself giving him too many opportunities to disobey me. It hasn't been anything major, but minor things turn in to major things if they go on for too long. Therefore, when I say, "Come here", then I expect him to come here immediately. It is time to be consistent, and it won't be long before I will see the results I am use to. Now Abram, well I have let him slide a little too much too. I have found that I haven't been checking his chores. I have been taking his word for things, but in the back of my mind I have known I am failing him (and me) in this area. I am not doing him, or me, any favors by not holding him accountable. All in all it is time to crack down. I could go on, but this post could and would go on forever, but I'm sure you get the idea.
Rather than feeling discouraged I felt more ready than I had felt in a long time. I was anxious to start rebuilding the fundamentals again. It's amazing how adding another person can push things out of order. I think it's pretty normal really, but what wouldn't be acceptable is if I let it go on for too long. Keeping this house running in a Godly orderly fashion is a full time job, and there isn't a lot of time to take leisure (hahaha) breaks before things and kids go completely askew.
Following Day Results:
Boaz............Still eats, poos, sleeps, and accepts love.....Whew!
Roman........First day of potty training and only one pee pee accident! Yahoo! He got a swat for ignoring me when I told him to come here, and he caught on very quickly. I never said he wasn't super smart! lol
Abram.........I told him to do his chores (cleaning his room) after an hour I asked him if he had finished the job, but I could tell by his hesitation that he hadn't. So I quickly went into his room, put a timer on, and told him I would be back then and it had better be done. I believe he knew I finally meant business, and the room was complete. Job Well Done!
Hmmmm that wasn't so tough, it's all about making the time to follow through, and not being lazy. This will be good for all of us!